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Kimberly has been interviewed and featured in a variety of articles. Click the links below to read the articles:

What Can I Do If I Feel My Partner Pulling Away?

If you and your partner have been dating for a while and you’ve started to notice a shift in your relationship — they aren’t as responsive to your touches as they were before, they’ve stopped planning romantic dates nights, or they’re just acting more distant overall — you may be up all night wondering what can you do to stop your partner from pulling away.

How to Handle a Narcissistic Mother

Anju Chandy was 18 years old when she left her Bakersfield, CA, home for a college far away. After years of frustration, the more miles she could put between her and her narcissistic mother, the better.

One Major Red Flag You're a Narcissist, Says New Study

It's incredibly easy to find fault with those who walk through the world with a brazen sense of superiority—those who exaggerate themselves, feast on attention, flood their Instagram accounts with selfies, and expect to be showered with love and envy while reciprocating practically nothing.

What to Say to Someone Who Lost a Child

When people lose someone that they love, especially when it’s their child, it is a time of great sadness and grief.

How to Handle a Narcissist

You may wonder if your partner, co-worker, or family member is a narcissist. While many people have what doctors call narcissistic traits, like self-importance and entitlement (thinking they’re owed something), people diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder can be a bigger challenge.

From Best Friends to Platonic Spouses

Some people are taking their friendships to the next level by saying “I do” to marriages without sex.

Kimberly Perlin: “Know your ideal client ”

Do not lone wolf your business, use your networks, expand them continuously and pay for consultation for both the business and clinical side. My best referrals come from past clients and clinicians that know me. In order to grow beyond my imagination I needed feedback from others. It saved time and money.

How To Survive And Thrive As A Highly Sensitive Person

Surround yourself with an empathetic and supportive tribe — My people know why I need to wear sunglasses while I drive (my eyes are crazy sensitive) or how I prefer to drive long distances rather than ride shotgun to avoid car sickness. You learn to weed out those who are inclined to ridicule when they sense a difference because really how fun are those conversations?

How Decluttering at Home Sets Healthy Boundaries for Parents

It's amazing how cleaning the kitchen junk drawer or making room in the garage can become an unexpected test to a parent's mental health—and bring up boundary issues they never knew they had.

What Tough Love Looks Like in a Marriage

“Give 'em some tough love.” It's an often-repeated saying in relationships, both with kids and adults. Let's say your kid is acting out. It's common, as a parent, to use a bit of tough love to teach your child a lesson — for example, warning them that you'll take away that night's screen time if they continue throwing peas at the dinner table.

Here's What Your Kid Is Really Saying When They Tell You They Hate You

It seems almost unimaginable, but that beautiful little baby who is gazing lovingly at you may one day grow up and utter those three words. No, not “I love you,” but “I hate you.” These words will be said with such complete conviction that it will shake you to your very core, and make you wonder if you’re the worst mother who ever walked the earth. (You’re not, by the way.) If you’re asking yourself why your kid claims to hate you, there are a few reasons why such a statement might be said — and no, they don’t really mean it.

Easing Back into Life after the Pandemic

Pace yourself — don’t try to make yourself have the same social schedule you had pre-Covid. Go to the things you really want to go to and see the folks you really want to see. Don’t force yourself to attend meetups that you are not interested in.

7 resources for victims of domestic violence

Domestic violence is a devastating and isolating experience. Often, it can feel like your alone or that there’s no way out. This is not the case, though. In fact, an estimated 10 million people are affected by domestic violence each year. While shocking, there are many resources for victims to safely leave their current environment and recover, physically and emotionally, from violence. Continue reading to learn about seven resources for domestic violence victims that medical professionals, lawyers, and mental health experts recommend.

How to Get Over a Narcissist (According to 11 Experts)

It’s hard to get over a narcissist. They have all sorts of tricks up their sleeves for getting people invested and entangled within them.

If you’re going through the process of getting over a narcissist, here are some things that might help, as discussed by experts.

PTSD Treatment: A Multi-Pronged Approach

“Therapists use lights, tapping and sound to mimic REM sleep, which is when the brain processes the events of the day,” says Kimberly Perlin, master of social work, (MSW), who uses EMDR in her practice. “EMDR often helps clients process traumas quickly and get relief from their systems faster.”

15 Early Relationship Problems That Can Get Worse Over Time

It's often tough to spot potential relationship problems when you're in the throes of a new love. You may even look past red flags or hope that minor-seeming issues will magically smooth themselves over — after all, the honeymoon phase can make you view your S.O. with rose-colored glasses. But the reality is that lots of early relationship issues can get worse over time.

How to Help a Partner With Low Self-Esteem: 6 Therapist-Approved Tips

“It's important to acknowledge that you can't fix it yourself. But you can help create conditions for them to thrive.”

The Friend Who Got Away

How to rekindle that relationship — if you want to. We all have one. The bestie who got away thanks to that terrible argument or that boyfriend who snatched her or the move that took her to the other end of the world.

In parenting or politics, appeasement is often a losing psychological strategy, experts say

Psychologists say there's a psychological reason why some people appease — and a reason it doesn't always work. This story is not just relevant to geopolitics; nearly everyone has had to debate the strategy of appeasing someone in their life — whether a bully, boss, narcissist, partner, or otherwise.

What Are Enmeshed Relationships? And How to Set Boundaries

If you’re in a relationship where you always put the other person’s needs first, you might be in an enmeshed relationship. But it’s possible to break old habits and set healthy boundaries.

8 Signs Someone Has A Superiority Complex

You may not realize it, but how you see yourself can affect the way you treat other people. For instance, when someone is content with themselves and where they are in life, it's easier to be genuinely happy for others and their success. But if they're someone who's not where they'd like to be and they need to devalue other people in order to feel better about themselves, that may be a sign of a superiority complex.

Why Are People so Easily Offended (According to Experts)

We live in a world where everyone is offended by something.

It could be the color of a person’s hair, the way they hold a spoon, the tone of their voice, or it could also be because of something they saw on social media — everyone has something they’re sensitive about, and when they come across it, they get upset.

Laughing at Work? It’s Good for You!

Bring those feel good hormones to work!

When was the last time you enjoyed a genuine laugh at work?

Money-Related Stress: 7 Tips from Psychologists

If you regularly worry about money, you are not alone. Every year the American Psychological Association (APA) commissions an annual nationwide survey to examine and understand the impact of stress. And every year since it began collecting data in 2007, money-related stress has been a top concern.

Defining Mental Disorders Is Not Clear Cut

The number of people affected by a mental disorder is growing, along with vagueness around the term “mental disorder ”A recent Psychological Medicine article explores the controversy around defining what thoughts and behavior indicate a diagnosis and suggests that the psychiatric field would “benefit from developing more sharply defined indicators of dysfunction”.